soft structure for raising responsible free-spirits

“I hated how I had no power or control over my life growing up, and yet, I don’t know how to get things done without repeating the same mistakes with my own kids.”

“I know I don’t want a rigid schedule, but we really need something to help us flow through our days more easily.”

“I’ve worked so hard to embrace gentle parenting, but I’m not sure how to extend that into homeschooling.”

“I’ve read enough to know that rewards, punishments, and coercive school-at-home are not for us, but what do we do instead?”

“I want to lean into freedom and trust, but I also want them to be healthy and nurtured.”

“I want to foster independence in my children, but it feels like I’m just nagging them all day long.”

I used to be right where you are today. I said no to all the manipulative top-down power and control-based tactics (after years of research taught me that they do not foster the life-long qualities I hoped to foster in my children), but I didn’t know what to do instead. Then I began to extend the collaboration piece that worked so beautifully in my parenting into the rest of our family life: our homeschooling, our household, and our strengths and challenges. We brought intention to the spending of our time and energy—in conscious collaboration as a family. Then bringing in the sensory piece of the bucket and clothespins scaffolded the tactile accountability my kids needed for their independence to blossom. For years now the Bucket System has provided the soft structure we have needed to raise responsible free spirits.

But it’s not just us. Hundreds of families have taken the Bucket System class and found it to be just what they’ve needed to unlock the ease of this lifestyle.

Are you ready for everyone to work together to maintain a clean home?

Are you ready for self-directed home education to flourish?

Are you ready to effectively support your children’s strengths and challenges?




Seasonally collaborate with your child on intentions (a respectful meeting of minds and needs).



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Create a personalized bucket together (bringing the abstract into the physical, sensory world).



Watch as your child leads the way through their day and learn more about what they need for the next refresh.

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In other words, start now and you’ll be asking for a name tag that says, "winning."

In one week, through a sensory approach that incorporates chores and homeschooling, you will: 

Get all on the same page.
Witness responsibilities being completed independently.
Flow through your daily rhythm with ease.
Channel passions into productive practice.
Support your child's challenges and strengths.
Enhance your connection with your child.
Be on a long-term path of success.
Gain confidence as a mother.

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you'll get

for $75

pdf workbook
audio companion
exclusive Facebook tribe membership

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"it's a game changer!"

"My nine-year-old has already showered, attended to his project work, and cleaned the kitchen floor. This, and other miracles, brought to you by Sage Parenting's seriously amazing Bucket System. All three kids sat down with me and discussed goals for the season, and we came up with clothespin tasks for each. Each task needs to be completed by dinner, in whichever order the child chooses, then they have free time. Only one limit! Finn's is more robust since it guides our homeschool . . . Sadie's includes items like drawing and dancing. Lachlan's is sparse since he will be in Montessori school full-time. Anywho, if you have kids, do check out the Bucket System. It's a game changer!"

meg mcelwee

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"holy lightbulb of getting sh*t done and still smiling."

"Last clothespin on the bucket is 'creative' and let's say there's no sighing or anger. Piano has been played, shoes and coats tidied, and clothes laid out for tomorrow. And I didn't say a thing, nag, yell or feel internally frustrated. Holy lightbulb of making life full of getting shit done and still smiling. This dog I mean mom, can learn new tricks!"

melissa lytle

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"My house has not been this peaceful and productive in ages. I could cry. Best money I ever spent!"

"That's a 5 year old scrubbing a toilet! She was the first done with her bucket today. Things are going mostly smoothly! 8 year old is um, adjusting. 10 year old is soaring through and doing more homeschool work than he's touched in months!!! Like is this bubble going to bust? My 8 year definitely tested the limits. I stood firm. He isn't done yet, but happily journaling for an hour now. My house had not been this peaceful and productive in ages. I could cry. Best money I ever spent! They read together, they practiced Aikido together, their rooms are tidy, the bathrooms are clean... My 10 year old whipped though math in a quarter of a time he normally spent crying about doing it... And my partner who was skeptical about the whole thing has been doing house love all day!"

katie webb


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