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May 17, 2015

Which Parenting Style Are You?

The plethora of parenting styles can feel overwhelming at times but allow me to share with you a buffet from which you can sample inspiration to find your evolving parenting identity.

Sage Parenting

Respect for the compassionate, conscious connection is the path to raising heart-full children. [Rachel Rainbolt]

The following are some of the styles that have inspired me and the body of Sage Parenting work.

Attachment Parenting

Focus on the nurturing connection, which is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and empathetic children. [Dr. Sears]

Gentle Parenting

Parenting with empathy, respect, and understanding. [Sarah Ockwell-Smith]

Holistic Parenting

View your child’s symptoms within the context of their overall wellness. [Linda Folden Palmer]

Unconditional Parenting

Unconditional love and acceptance in a way that prioritizes the relationship, works with the child instead of doing to the child, and does away with manipulative consequences that set the child up to seek approval. [Alfie Kohn]

Conscious Parenting

The parent-child relationship provides an opportunity for the parent to evolve with their child, as opposed to making the child the receptacle for the parent’s issues. [Shefali Tsabary] [See my book review here.]

Free-Range Parenting

Children are allowed to explore the world at their own pace. [Lenore Skenazy]

Evolutionary Parenting

Incorporating an anthropological, biological, cross-cultural, and historical context. [Tracy Cassels]


The education of children by their parents.


Child-led life learning in the world. [John Holt]

Holistic Education

“Each child finds identity, meaning, and purpose in life through connections to the community, to the natural world, and to humanitarian values such as compassion and peace. Holistic education aims to call forth from people an intrinsic reverence for life and a passionate love of learning.” [Ron Miller]

The following are some of the styles that have resonated with some but I have chosen not to incorporate.

RIE Parenting

Respect for babies as human beings is what I would take from this approach. Be present and communicate with your baby and observe to allow your baby to show you who s/he is. [Magda Gerber and Janet Lansbury] The huge problem with RIE is that it ignores what science and evolution have taught us about babies, believing that CIO is good and co-sleeping is bad and devaluing touch and trust. [Laura Markham and Tracy Cassels]

Hand in Hand Parenting

Their website says they are all about connection but their sleep article (which I am most often asked about) is riddled with blatant misinformation that fosters disconnection.

Helicopter Parenting

A style of child rearing in which an overprotective parent discourages a child’s independence by swooping in at any sign of challenge or discomfort or restricting their child from experiencing life.

Authoritarian Parenting

Think high expectations, strict rules, unconditional obedience, and punishment.

I hope you enjoyed sampling the parenting inspiration buffet. You can now dive deeper into any styles that resonated with you to create your personal parenting style with the perfect taste for you and your little one. And you can confidently engage in rigorous conversation with your parent friends in social situations. But mostly the first part.

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